Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Stop the violence

We’ve got this domestic violence thing mostly wrong.

Physical or emotional violence toward an intimate partner is never acceptable. Violence is especially unacceptable in the context of a romantic relationship because of the vulnerability, interdependence and love present within intimate relationships. It is a deep, deep betrayal. One for which there should be significant consequences. We’ve got the consequences part down - some of the time. It helps if the abuse is captured on tape and/or the victim is an “acceptable” victim.

We’ve got most of the rest of it wrong.

Treating the survivor like a child
When abuse happens in an adult relationship the only person who gets to decide what choices the survivor makes is the survivor. If you don’t like their choices, you can shut the fuck up. Unless you live in that relationship, you don’t know what is going into the survivor’s decision making process. A key part of abuse is control. When you try and control the survivor’s choices, you abuse the survivor all over again.

There is no “type of person” abuse happens to. It can happen to anyone. It can happen to you, it can happen to me, it can happen to your child. Even your son. No matter how old he is, how big or how straight. People of all genders and orientations receive abuse. People of all genders and orientations dish it out.

Stop joking, concern trolling or making fun of people who stay in abusive relationships. You never know what’s going on behind closed doors. That friend you’re talking to may need your help one day. Don’t make it harder for them to ask.

We need to approach survivors with compassion and respect for their decision making abilities. If they are staying in a relationship that is abusive, they have reasons. In some cases these reasons are related to finances, destroyed self image, children, religion, a hope that things will get better, denial or love. Frequently, it’s multiple reasons. If we truly want to support survivors we must never, ever imply that someone who is abused is less than, weak or stupid. They get plenty of that at home. We need to make it as easy as possible for them to ask for help and support. We need to honor the strength in their survival. Living through emotional and/or physical abuse is an act of courage. And asking for help, saying out loud that someone you love is hurting you, is one of the hardest things in the world.

Turning the abuser into a super villain
Most people who have engaged in abusive behaviors are not monsters. They are flawed humans. They are people deeply in need of help, healing and therapy. They should experience consequences for their action, but they should not be ostracized. Isolating an abuser, or worse both the abuser and the survivor only creates an environment rife with the possibility of continued abuse.

It’s easy to vilify someone who has committed abuse. It’s comfortable. It makes it seem like abuse can’t happen to you. Or that you would never be the kind of person who’d abuse another. Hopefully you aren’t. But I guarantee that you know someone who has. You may care deeply about this person. They may be deserving of your love and compassion. They also may have committed the crime of hitting someone in anger or intentionally belittling someone they love. Abuse happens in real life. With real people. Sometimes good people do horrible things.

Our current conversations about abuse don’t acknowledge the humanity of the abuser. We say, “a real man doesn’t hit a woman”. We throw them out with the rest of the trash. So, what is someone who’s abusing their partner supposed to do if they actually want to stop? How are they supposed to ask for help when the social cost is so high?

Abuse doesn’t happen in a vacuum. It happens in context. We foster a culture that allows this abuse to happen. If it weren’t a cultural as well as in individual problem, it wouldn’t be so pervasive, 1 in 4 women wouldn’t have experienced abuse. Each and every one of us is a part of the problem. Each of us can be part of the solution.


Over genderizing intimate violence.
Domestic violence is absolutely disproportionately directed at women by men. A part of addressing that kind of violence lies in addressing fucked up patriarchal assumptions about men owning women, how men should express emotions, the acceptability of male violence and the commodification of women’s bodies. However, abuse is about more than that. It’s about wounded people making terrible choices that hurt, maim, even kill people they supposedly love. Intimate violence occurs in same sex relationships at similar rates as it does in opposite sex relationships.[1] Sometimes in opposite sex relationships the woman is the perpetrator. According to the National Coalition on Domestic Violence 1 in 14 men have survived domestic violence – that’s 835,000 men each year.[2] Men, straight, gay or bi have nowhere to go if they need to flee a violent relationship. The stigma for male survivors is huge. Services and shelters for men are almost completely non-existent. The same is also true for trans or gender queer people. Intimate partner violence is a result of gender oppression, a cultural understanding that some level of violence is somehow acceptable, lack of accountability for abusers, untreated mental illness and/or addiction and insufficient education on appropriate relationship & communication skills.  

Intimate violence only affects the people in the relationship
Violence such as domestic violence and sexual assault have wide ripple affects in both families and communities. We saw that yesterday. How many of you are angry or disappointed in Ray Rice? I am. When he implied it was a mutual combat situation in which he over reacted, I chose to believe him. It wasn’t. When he said that he and his wife were seeking counseling and working on their issues, I believed him. I’ve seen relationships with a history of violence heal from that violence. I hope deeply that the Rice family is able to find healing. In the mean time, thousands of fans are also angry and hurt. Monday night a family member of mine who’s 11 years old was crying when he found out what happened. He felt betrayed. This is what happens on a smaller scale in communities. People lose friends and family. People lose jobs (both abusers and survivors). Friends, family, children and co-workers feel hurt and betrayed. It’s ugly. It’s painful. It’s not ok.

It’s not black and white
Domestic violence happens on a continuum. Have you ever been so mad you slammed a door? Or threw something? Or said something intentionally hurtful to your partner? Then you, like many people, have been on that continuum. Culturally, we have to recognize even these gateway behaviors as unacceptable. The more we accept them, the easier it is to keep stumbling down that path to violence. It can start with a door slam and end in a death. Each step down that path makes the next one easier. It’s never ok to hit your partner. It’s also not ok to throw the mail at them.

Domestic violence is layered and vicious. It is born from pain and a desperate grab for power and control. It is utterly unacceptable. So how do we stop it?

·      We let people know it’s not acceptable.
·      We acknowledge that in intimate relationships, rage can happen.
·      We provide people with the tools to prevent violence resulting from rage.
·      We teach people that relationships are about supporting each other and never, ever about controlling each other.
·      When people fail, we to call them on with severe compassion, consequences and help.
·      We start talking about anger and appropriate responses when our kids are toddlers.
·      We model appropriate behavior to our kids and do this on every level, with our partners, with strangers in the grocery store, even in the car at other drivers. When we fail, we explain that what we did was wrong, why and demonstrate making amends.
·      We stop harassing women on the street and denigrating women and femininity with our words.
·      We respect each other’s body autonomy.
·      We never, ever demean a survivor.
·      And, when someone has fallen, when they have been violent to a partner, if they have had the strength to follow through on taking responsibility, making amends, seeking therapy and changing their behavior, we don’t throw them away, we provide them with a path to redemption. We allow them to earn back our trust and respect. Not just because it’s the right thing to do, but because it’s motivation for hard, deep and painful work of healing.

Consequences are important. But we need to start with prevention and policies that focus on the survivor’s needs We need to stop violence it before it starts. We can stop this. So let’s get busy.

If you or someone you love is currently being affected by domestic violence, please reach out. You are not alone. RAINN, the domestic abuse hotline for men and women (888.7HOTLINE) or the National Domestic Abuse hotline (tel:1-800-799-7233) can provide you with local resources and support. If you feel you are at risk of abusing someone or are currently in a relationship in which you are the abuser, The House of Ruth in Baltimore has a program for abusers (410) 889-7884.



[1] Pulled 9/9/14 http://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs_faqs_so-a.pdf
[2] pulled 9/9/14 http://www.ncadv.org/files/MaleVictims.pdf

Monday, June 16, 2014

Sugar is hiring!

We're bringing in a new Sex Educator!

The right person for this position will be available to work Saturdays 11-5 pm and some weekdays.

Please submit a cover letter and resume to jacq@sugartheshop.com by Monday, June 23rd at Noon.

In the cover letter include the ways in which your experience is relevant to the position.

No calls please - email only.

We're looking forward to meeting you!


Sex Educator

The Sex Educator is responsible for answering customers’ questions, using active listening skills to determine the customer’s concerns and needs, providing customers with the information they require to make the purchases that are best for them and/or providing customers with referrals to other community organizations, stores or healthcare providers if Sugar is not able to meet their needs.  In addition, SEs process sales in the POS system, stock the store and maintain information in the Inventory Control system, ensure that the store is clean and tidy at all times, fulfillment of customer orders for shipping and perform other duties as assigned.  These duties may include:  store decoration, workshop instruction and/or special events.

Required skills:
-       A passion for Sugar’s mission
-       Computer literacy
-       Excellent customer service
-       Able to accurately work with money
-       Able to lift 50 pounds
-       Able to work evenings and weekends
-       Comfort with and acceptance of diverse sexualities
-       Cultural competency with diverse communities
-       Knowledge and understanding of queer and gender issues
-       Commitment to a team environment
-       A mind that is open to new things and ways of solving problems


Preferred:
Previous experience in sexuality education, counseling and/or retail.

Sugar will provide Sex Educators with:
$11.50 an hour – eligible for $00.50 increase after two successful months
A commitment to a systems oriented work place.
A work place that is respectful and supportive.


Mission

Sugar is a lesbian owned, multi-gender operated, for profit, mission driven sex toy store.  By providing education and toys in a shame free, sex positive, fun environment we help people of all genders and orientations experience their own unique sexuality with shameless joy and passion. 

Vision

A world in which healthy sexuality is respected and celebrated in all of its diversity.

Values

Sugar believes that sex between consenting adults is sacred, powerful and fun and should be celebrated and honored.  By providing quality education and toys in a sex positive, fun atmosphere, we will help foster healthy sexuality.  In order to provide our customers with impeccable customer service we strive to create a work environment that is healthy and supportive of each and every member of the Sugar team.  Sugar also works to exist in the environment in a way that is sustainable and responsible.

Sugar provides equal employment opportunities (EEO) to all employees and applicants for employment without regard to race, color, religion, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, national origin, age, disability, genetic information, marital status, amnesty, or status as a covered veteran in accordance with applicable federal, state and local laws. Sugar complies with applicable state and local laws governing non-discrimination in employment in every location in which the company has facilities. This policy applies to all terms and conditions of employment, including, but not limited to, hiring, placement, promotion, termination, layoff, recall, transfer, leaves of absence, compensation, and training.
Sugar expressly prohibits any form of unlawful employee harassment based on race, color, religion, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, national origin, age, genetic information, disability, or veteran status. Improper interference with the ability of Sugar employees to perform their expected job duties is absolutely not tolerated.

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Sugar is growing and we're looking for a new Sex Educator!

We're bringing in a new Sex Educator!

The right person for this position will be available to work Saturdays 11-5 pm and some weekdays.

Please submit a cover letter and resume to jacq@sugartheshop.com by Monday, June 23rd at Noon.

In the cover letter include the ways in which your experience is relevant to the position.

No calls please - email only.

We're looking forward to meeting you!


Sex Educator

The Sex Educator is responsible for answering customers’ questions, using active listening skills to determine the customer’s concerns and needs, providing customers with the information they require to make the purchases that are best for them and/or providing customers with referrals to other community organizations, stores or healthcare providers if Sugar is not able to meet their needs.  In addition, SEs process sales in the POS system, stock the store and maintain information in the Inventory Control system, ensure that the store is clean and tidy at all times, fulfillment of customer orders for shipping and perform other duties as assigned.  These duties may include:  store decoration, workshop instruction and/or special events.

Required skills:
-       A passion for Sugar’s mission
-       Computer literacy
-       Excellent customer service
-       Able to accurately work with money
-       Able to lift 50 pounds
-       Able to work evenings and weekends
-       Comfort with and acceptance of diverse sexualities
-       Cultural competency with diverse communities
-       Knowledge and understanding of queer and gender issues
-       Commitment to a team environment
-       A mind that is open to new things and ways of solving problems


Preferred:
Previous experience in sexuality education, counseling and/or retail.

Sugar will provide Sex Educators with:
$11.50 an hour – eligible for $00.50 increase after two successful months
A commitment to a systems oriented work place.
A work place that is respectful and supportive.


Mission

Sugar is a lesbian owned, multi-gender operated, for profit, mission driven sex toy store.  By providing education and toys in a shame free, sex positive, fun environment we help people of all genders and orientations experience their own unique sexuality with shameless joy and passion. 

Vision

A world in which healthy sexuality is respected and celebrated in all of its diversity.

Values

Sugar believes that sex between consenting adults is sacred, powerful and fun and should be celebrated and honored.  By providing quality education and toys in a sex positive, fun atmosphere, we will help foster healthy sexuality.  In order to provide our customers with impeccable customer service we strive to create a work environment that is healthy and supportive of each and every member of the Sugar team.  Sugar also works to exist in the environment in a way that is sustainable and responsible.

Sugar provides equal employment opportunities (EEO) to all employees and applicants for employment without regard to race, color, religion, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, national origin, age, disability, genetic information, marital status, amnesty, or status as a covered veteran in accordance with applicable federal, state and local laws. Sugar complies with applicable state and local laws governing non-discrimination in employment in every location in which the company has facilities. This policy applies to all terms and conditions of employment, including, but not limited to, hiring, placement, promotion, termination, layoff, recall, transfer, leaves of absence, compensation, and training.
Sugar expressly prohibits any form of unlawful employee harassment based on race, color, religion, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, national origin, age, genetic information, disability, or veteran status. Improper interference with the ability of Sugar employees to perform their expected job duties is absolutely not tolerated.

Wednesday, February 5, 2014

Sugar is hiring!

We're bringing in a new Sex Educator!

The right person for this position will be available to work Saturdays, 5-11pm and Sundays 11-6. Preference will be given to folks who also have the flexibility to pick up shifts during the week.

Please submit a cover letter and resume to jacq@sugartheshop.com by Monday, February 10th at Noon.

In the cover letter include the ways in which your experience is relevant to the position.

No calls please - email only.

We're looking forward to meeting you!

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Sex Educator

The Sex Educator is responsible for answering customers’ questions, using active listening skills to determine the customer’s concerns and needs, providing customers with the information they require to make the purchases that are best for them and/or providing customers with referrals to other community organizations, stores or healthcare providers if Sugar is not able to meet their needs.  In addition, SEs process sales in the POS system, stock the store and maintain information in the Inventory Control system, ensure that the store is clean and tidy at all times, fulfillment of customer orders for shipping and perform other duties as assigned.  These duties may include:  store decoration, workshop instruction and/or special events.

Required skills:
-       A passion for Sugar’s mission
-       Computer literacy
-       Excellent customer service
-       Able to accurately work with money
-       Able to lift 50 pounds
-       Able to work evenings and weekends
-       Comfort with and acceptance of diverse sexualities
-       Cultural competency with diverse communities
-       Knowledge and understanding of queer and gender issues
-       Commitment to a team environment
-       A mind that is open to new things and ways of solving problems


Preferred:
Previous experience in sexuality education, counseling and/or retail.

Sugar will provide Sex Educators with:
$11.50 an hour – eligible for $00.50 increase after two successful months
A commitment to a systems oriented work place.
A work place that is respectful and supportive.


Mission

Sugar is a lesbian owned, multi-gender operated, for profit, mission driven sex toy store.  By providing education and toys in a shame free, sex positive, fun environment we help people of all genders and orientations experience their own unique sexuality with shameless joy and passion. 

Vision

A world in which healthy sexuality is respected and celebrated in all of its diversity.

Values

Sugar believes that sex between consenting adults is sacred, powerful and fun and should be celebrated and honored.  By providing quality education and toys in a sex positive, fun atmosphere, we will help foster healthy sexuality.  In order to provide our customers with impeccable customer service we strive to create a work environment that is healthy and supportive of each and every member of the Sugar team.  Sugar also works to exist in the environment in a way that is sustainable and responsible.

Monday, October 21, 2013

Fisting Day!

Welcome to Sugar's celebration of Fisting Day.

Fisting Day is one of our favorite holidays. We get to celebrate a deeply sexy and somewhat under utilized sexual act. AND talk about why on earth it's an act that is banned from US pornography.

Seriously, 3 dicks in one vagina? That's a-ok. One little tiny fist in that same vagina? Call the Supreme Court! Obscenity is occurring!

Seriously, fisting is considered to be "obscene" and most mainstream porn studios won't consider putting it in their films in fear of an obscenity charge. There are a few feminist pornographers that are testing the waters and have been able to include fisting. Personally, because fisting is something that is associated with "Gay Sex", I think homophobia is the only reason that it's been on the banned list. There's nothing extra scary or dangerous about fisting. In fact, when done correctly, it's a very sexy, fun and low risk activity. It's not going to cause a pregnancy and it's unlikely to spread STIs. Especially if a glove is used. For more info about fisting and porn and links to fisting inclusive porn go to Jiz Lee's blog (definitely NSFW).

So let's talk about fisting. Fisting is when a person inserts their entire hand past the knuckles into someone's vagina or butt (occasionally mouth). The hand may be formed into a fist after it's inside the body. Or not. The fister may engage in a bunch of back and forth movement. Or not.

People choose to engage in fisting for all of the reasons that they choose sexual activities. It feels good. It's taboo. It's intimate and super connected. It creates a big sensation of fullness.

Some folks choose to avoid it for all of the reasons people avoid certain sexual activities. It hasn't occurred to them. They tried it once an didn't like it. They only like it with certain sized hands.

Fisting can be lovely. And, like any sexual activity, it helps if you know a little bit about what you're doing. And if you use the Magic Sexual Super Star Powers of: lubrication and communication.

To fist a vagina.

First, you will need both a vagina and a fist. Preferably a fist on one person, a vagina on another (although I have seen someone fist herself, you may not want to start there, in fact, it's most likely that you don't bend that way.).

Then, you need to establish clear consent and boundaries with both parties. Since fisting is an activity that requires a fair amount of communication, I'd highly encourage you to enter into it sober.

If your are the Fister, examine your hands. If you have nails that you can feel beyond your finger pads, hang nails or rough skin, put on a glove. If the vagina having person is new to you, put on a glove. If you're camping, put on a glove. In general, just put on a damn nitirle or latex glove. If you have long nails. put  cotton ball on the tip of each nail and then put your hand in the glove. Gloves are good.

Provide the person with the vagina with a ton of their favorite kind of stimulation, or Fistee, provide yourself with a ton of your favorite stimulation. Whatever it is. It's usually a good idea for the Fistee to have an orgasm or two before you try the full hand. Get those muscles relaxed.

Next, when the person with the vagina is ready, insert one well lubricated finger into the vagina. Add additional fingers with additional lube at their request. Keep that lube bottle close by. There may come a time later in this activity where it's difficult for the Fistee to talk. Pay close attention to how lubricated your hand and their vagina appears. If it looks like it's possible that things are drying out a little, add more lube. Fisting with not enough lube can cause tearing in the vaginal tissue. No one wants that. This is especially important to pay attention to if the Fistee is Peri-Menopausal or beyond or if the Fistee is a person who is on or has been on testosterone for gender reassignment. You also need to take extra care and do extra massaging with someone who has had genital surgery (like a hysterectomy or construction of a vagina in a woman of trans experience)

Fisting can be an activity where silicone lube is a good plan. Silicone lube won't evaporate or be absorbed by the skin. So, you'll be able to use less of it. Which is handy. Because you can then focus more of your attention on the person that you're fisting.

Once you are at the point of having four fingers in the Fistee's vagina, you're at the tricky part, the broadest part of the hand. Clearly, hand sizes vary greatly and the amount of stimulation an individual vagina likes varies greatly. Some hands will fit more easily in some vaginas than others. The person receiving the stimulation is always, always in control. If they say, "No, too much, too big". They're telling the truth. Will your hand always be too much for that person? Maybe. Maybe not. But what matters is that you share with each other what's ok in that moment. If fisting isn't it, move on to something else equally delightful.


When the Fistee gives you the go ahead, pull those four fingers out just a little, squish them together a little and put your thumb in the middle.

Like this:



Then add more lube.

With the Fistees consent, press your hand into the vagina up to just before the bridge of the hand (right before the last row of knuckles). In most cases, it works best for the open part of your hand to be facing away from the Fistees butt and toward the front of their body. If the Fistee disagrees, listen to them.

The Fistee needs to focus and breathe at this point. It is totally possible to accommodate a hand in one's vagina. It might not happen in this moment, it might. All of those options are exactly what's good for right now. Breathe and enjoy the sensation. When you're ready, ask for more.

The Fister now waits. Say things to the Fistee that help them relax. At the Fistees direction, start to apply gentle pressure with your hand. Be patient. At some point you will feel the muscles relax and you will slide in. Because the thumb has an extra bumpy part separate and lower than the bridge of your hand, it often helps to gently rock your hand back and forth as you are sliding in. Once you are past the thumb, things tend to move more quickly toward the wrist.

Now, you both rest for a bit. The sensation of having someone's hand inside you or of having your entire hand inside of someone is different than any other sensation. Like any new sensation, it can feel overwhelming. Give yourselves a moment, or ten, to taste those new feelings. This may be all you want. Or you may decide to do more.

If you want to do more, you have plenty of options. Try moving the arm back and forth slowly or with some speed. Try rearranging your hand like this:




Or like this:





Or like this:





Each of those will create very different sensations. See what feels good.

And play.

If the Fistee has an orgasm while the Fister's hand is inside of them, the two may find that the Fister's hand feels trapped. Or that there is a strong tension around the vaginal opening on the Fister's wrist. Do not panic. After an orgasm, it is normal for muscles to tense before they relax. They will relax. Yelling "Give me back my hand!" will not help. So wait, enjoy each other, and then, as the muscles relax, very, very gently pull your hand out. This may need to happen in a gradual manner.

More next time on anal fisting! In the meantime, for good anal fisting info, check out Laura Anne Stewart's article.

In celebration of Fisting Day, we'll be giving
everyone 10% off gloves and lube in the store. We'd love to give you 10% off on the web site, but it doesn't do that yet. We're working on it!

Friday, October 18, 2013

Sugar is Hiring an Office Assistant

We're hiring an Office Assistant to help us with paper work and other important things in the back. There is a possibility, although absolutely not a requirement, that the person hired could also be trained to work as an on-call Sex Educator with more regular hours over the holidays (Winter and Valentines).

The position requires around 10 hours a week. The days and times worked can be flexible, but some daytime, weekday hours are preferred. Pay is $12 an hour (starts at 11.50, goes to $12 after 60 days).

In order to apply, please submit a cover letter and resume to jacq@sugartheshop.com . In the cover letter, please include why you want to work at Sugar and how your past experience is relevant to this position. The application process closes at noon on Wednesday, October 23rd. Applications received after that time will not be considered. No phone calls please.

We're looking forward to meeting our new team member!


Office Assistant

The Office Assistant works to support both the Management Team and the Sex Educators of Sugar by overseeing the supportive details of the back office.

Skills and Requirements
-       A passion for Sugar’s mission
-       Experience with office support work
-       Computer literacy
-       Attention to detail
-       Ability to lift up to 50 pounds
-       Maintain store/office supply stock
Including: chalk, bags, stamps, pens, go cards, stickers, etc.
-       Make deposits at least twice a week
o   Provide weekly cash reports
-       Do vendor returns on a bi-weekly basis
-       Filing and office organization
-       Quick Books data entry
-       Reconcile all invoices with Quick Books
o   Alert manager to any discrepancies
o   Follow up as directed by manager
-       Sort mail
-       Other duties as assigned

 

Mission

Sugar is a lesbian owned, multi-gender operated, for profit, mission driven sex toy store.  By providing education and toys in a shame free, sex positive, fun environment we help people of all genders and orientations experience their own unique sexuality with shameless joy and passion. 

Vision

A world in which healthy sexuality is respected and celebrated in all of its diversity.

Values

Sugar believes that sex between consenting adults is sacred, powerful and fun and should be celebrated and honored.  By providing quality education and toys in a sex positive, fun atmosphere, we will help foster healthy sexuality.  In order to provide our customers with impeccable customer service we strive to create a work environment that is healthy and supportive of each and every member of the Sugar team.  Sugar also works to exist in the environment in a way that is sustainable and responsible.

Sugar provides equal employment opportunities (EEO) to all employees and applicants for employment without regard to race, color, religion, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, national origin, age, disability, genetic information, marital status, amnesty, or status as a covered veteran in accordance with applicable federal, state and local laws. Sugar complies with applicable state and local laws governing non-discrimination in employment. This policy applies to all terms and conditions of employment, including, but not limited to, hiring, placement, promotion, termination, layoff, recall, transfer, leaves of absence, compensation, and training.
Sugar expressly prohibits any form of unlawful employee harassment based on race, color, religion, gender, sexual orientation, gender identity or expression, national origin, age, genetic information, disability, or veteran status. Improper interference with the ability of Sugar’s employees to perform their expected job duties is absolutely not tolerated.

Monday, September 30, 2013

Sugar is hiring an Assistant Manager


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Assistant Manager
Job Description

The Assistant Manager is responsible for exceling as a Sex Educator, supporting other Sex Educators in their positions and supporting the Manager in daily operations, purchasing and reporting. 
-->As a Sex Educator, the Assistant Manager is responsible for answering customers’ questions, using active listening skills to determine the customer’s concerns and needs, providing customers with the information they require to make the purchases that are best for them and/or providing customers with referrals to other community organizations, stores or healthcare providers if Sugar is not able to meet their needs.  In addition, SEs process sales in the POS system, stock the store and maintain information in the Inventory Control system, ensure that the store is clean and tidy at all times, fulfill customer orders for shipping and perform other duties as assigned.  These duties may include:  store decoration, workshop instruction and/or special events. The Assistant Manager works as part of the team to provide customers with the highest level of customer service and to ensure that the mission of Sugar is consistently at the forefront of all decisions in the store and visible in all aspects of the business

Daily functions include performing all duties of the Sex Educator position in addition to Assistant Manager functions.

Skills and Requirements:
-       A passion for Sugar’s mission
-       Experience in retail sales, customer service, reproductive health care or education
-       Expertise in retail store operations
-       Computer literacy
-       Excellent sales and customer service skills
-       Ability to think strategically and use systems based thinking
-       Able to work evenings and weekends
-       Able to lift up to 50 lbs
-       Comfort with and acceptance of diverse sexualities
-       Cultural competency with diverse communities
-       Knowledge and understanding of queer and gender issues
-       Commitment to a team environment
-       A mind that is open to new things and ways of solving problems

Preferred skills:
-       Previous supervisory experience
-       Previous experience with Point of Sale systems

Responsibilities
-       Perform all Sex Educator responsibilities
-       Merchandising
o   Work with the Manager to develop in store visual promotions plan in concert with overall store marketing plan
o   Update and change displays in store at least monthly
o   Work with manager to continually refine and improve store appearance.
-       Staff
o   Assist manager with hiring, staff support and staff training
o   Oversee staff scheduling
o   Maintain an open flow of information and education in the store between manager and sex educators
o   Support Manager in fostering a supportive, systems based environment that enables the team to achieve store goals and objectives
-       Purchasing
o   Spot check inventory levels weekly by department (each department checked at least monthly)
o   Assist manager with purchasing and receiving
-       Education
o   Assist manager with staff training
o   Coordinate private workshops
o   Assist manager with scheduling and running public workshops
-       Maintain all retail floor reporting paper work and supply to Manager
-       Support Manager in maintaining profitability in all areas, including, sales, operations, and customer service
-       Research and suggest new products to manager
-       Act as Manager On Duty when manager is unavailable.
-       Other duties as assigned


30  hours a week (approximately 25 hours working the floor, 5 hours off the floor)
Includes all benefits and responsibilities of Sex Educator position

Sugar will provide the Assistant Manager with:
$14 an hour – eligible for a $1 increase after two successful months of employment
A commitment to a systems oriented work place.
A work place that is respectful and supportive.



Mission

Sugar is a lesbian owned, multi-gender operated, for profit, mission driven sex toy store.  By providing education and toys in a shame free, sex positive, fun environment we help people of all genders and orientations experience their own unique sexuality with shameless joy and passion. 

Vision

A world in which healthy sexuality is respected and celebrated in all of its diversity.

Values

Sugar believes that sex between consenting adults is sacred, powerful and fun and should be celebrated and honored.  By providing quality education and toys in a sex positive, fun atmosphere, we will help foster healthy sexuality.  In order to provide our customers with impeccable customer service we strive to create a work environment that is healthy and supportive of each and every member of the Sugar team.  Sugar also works to exist in the environment in a way that is sustainable and responsible.

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To apply, please submit a cover letter and resume to jacq@sugartheshop.com. The cover letter must include both how your experience is related to this position and why you want to work at Sugar. 

Applications must be received by Noon on Monday, October 7th